how to navigate Chemotherapy as a mother of young kids: 6 Tips
When my pathology report came back, I knew I had to face chemotherapy. Fear and anxiety consumed me, but as a mother of three young children, I refused to let my illness define me. I chose courage, strength, and hope.
Needing lots of help, I stayed positive and embraced the unknown. Reading about others’ chemo experiences, I knew my journey would be unique.
Today, as a survivor, I share my story to offer hope to those fighting a similar battle. Remember, you are strong and capable. You can overcome any obstacle and emerge victoriously. Keep your head up, and never lose hope. Together, we can overcome any hurdle!
Tips for how to prepare for Chemotherapy
1. Get a second opinion or third opinion
After your pathology report comes back, it’s crucial to seek additional opinions, especially if you’re in a “grey zone” regarding the need for chemotherapy. A research hospital, which sees numerous cancer cases monthly, can offer specialized treatments, cutting-edge equipment, and higher survival rates compared to local hospitals. It’s essential to consult a medical team that specializes in breast cancer treatment.
If cost is a concern, organizations like DoCancer or the HammerasGroup can assist in setting up and offsetting the cost of your second opinion.
To find an NIH-approved cancer research hospital, click here. Remember, this is your body, and you are making the most critical health decision of your life.
2. Organize Care during Chemotherapy
- Let your community know what you’re going through and ask for help. You might be surprised at how people rally to support you.
- Use tools like CaringBridge and Mealtrain to coordinate assistance with childcare, meals, and rides.
- Planning for the worst and hoping for the best will help you conserve energy for activities you enjoy with your children.
For younger kids, consider full-time childcare or help from friends/family. Arrange transportation for school and activities. Arrange playdates for kids outside home.
For household tasks, ask for help with errands and groceries, or use delivery services. Consider free meal delivery services for cancer patients like Pink Ribbon Good . Get help with free cleaning, possibly through organizations like Cleaning for a Reason. Pink Ribbon Good also provides free cleaning supplies like lightweight vacuum Cleaner and Clean Cleaning products form Branch Basics, which I personally really liked.
Prioritize self-care and allow others to care for you. Enjoy some personal time before each treatment cycle.
After treatment, the first two days are usually energetic due to steroids. But as they wear off, you’ll likely feel worse, typically between 3 to 9 days post-infusion. Recovery is gradual, and each cycle may leave you weaker. Consider arranging extra help during this period, especially from distant family or friends.
3. Prepare for Chemotherapy Day
- Pick up all necessary medications before chemo starts.
- Keep a journal to track side effects, making follow-ups with your care team easier.
- Get a good thermometer to monitor your temperature daily.
- Learn about managing minimizing chemo side effects beforehand. Know what to expect and what help you’ll need during infusions. Click the button below to learn more.
4. Tell your children about Chemotherapy
Prepare your children for what’s to come in simple, understandable terms. Explain that your breast has a lump and you will be taking medicine to feel better. It’s important to assuring them that it’s no one’s fault.
- Short conversations and making some simple drawings will help them process the information better.
- Reading books that explain cancer in a child-friendly way can also be helpful.
- Playing with young children can help them express their feelings about cancer and what’s happening during Chemotherapy. Request your free Barbie to prepare them for hair loss here.
- Their routines may change, but remind them that you still love them.
- Involving their school/teachers can also assist in processing their emotions.
- Check out the cancer support community guide and Bright Spot Network for resources.
- See my Resource section for children’s books and videos.
5. Go into Chemo day with a positive mindset
- Reframe your thoughts by changing the way you view chemotherapy. Instead of feeling angry and sad, focus on how it can help you beat cancer.
- Connect with other survivors. Knowing what to expect physically and emotionally is very helpful.
- Mindfulness Practices, such as starting a gratitude journal, meditations or using positive affirmations and mantras can be very helpful.
- Check out the section “How to cope with Chemo Side Effects physically & emotionally”
…..At the end of Chemotherapy you will get to ring the bell! You did it!
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